The First Step

 

The first step is always the scariest. It is fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of failing. Fear of falling. Fear of public humiliation. Fear of struggle. Fear of not being good enough. It is fear that holds us back. It keeps us in our ever so lovely area called the comfort zone. I once read the quote, "comfort zones are comfortable because they're familiar not because they're healthy." Boy does that ring true! We settle for what is comfortable.. out of fear. We could very well be unhappy, unhealthy, miserable, and desperate for change yet many never take that first step to propel in a different direction. The direction that could lead to happiness, healthiness, joy - all the things that life is meant to be.

 

Many people will and are starting a new fitness/weight loss program today. But that is not the first step. The first step is recognizing a change must be made. Do you feel uncomfortable when you sit because your clothes are too tight? Maybe you can't help but focus on the negative when you see your reflection in the mirror. Or quite possibly are just unhappy but aren't sure why. Whatever it may be, what ever could be the driver to change - recognizing it needs to go in a different direction IS the first step. It means that you recognize something needs to be done, you must take action. Take responsibility that YOU hold all the power to say at any given moment, the story does not have to end this way. That is the first step. 

 

Now many will think, oh big deal - that's not that scary! It takes a lot to own your issues and do something about them. Taking action can be just as scary and nerve racking. Asking for help is staring fear in the face. Fear will tell you that you can't allow people to know that you're struggling. Fear will tell you that it's easier to say "this is life!" and "I must suck it up." Fear will tell you that you can't do it even though right now you may think you can. Fear will stop you dead in your tracks and make you second guess yourself for even considering a change needs to occur. To ask for help or support is one of the bravest things you can do. I think we take it for granted what kind of courage that requires. People do not understand the power of support. The power of knowing you are not alone even though you think you are. It becomes a healing process. A learning process. You develop. And before you know it, you are becoming that person you always dreamed about. Things that seemed unfamiliar and uncomfortable will begin to become your new comfort zone. But you can't get there without that first step. 

 

 If you've taken that first step and are now executing, here's to you. Day one is tough. It gets better. But we all have been there. And getting through day 1, is the only way to get to day 2, and so on. I celebrate you, your courage, and dedication to be more than fear will allow you to be. If you know you need to change, I highly encourage you to reach out. You will be overwhelmed by the support a positive community can offer your life. I can help you if you need a friend.

 

Thanks for reading and until next time do not let fear dictate how your life is lived. You deserve more. xoxo